How exactly would one take action on something like that?
I do encourage my kids to eat ārealā food, like crunchy vegetables, chewier meat etc - not just mushy processed stuff. Iām vaguely aware of some ideas that eating soft food may adversely affect jaw development (and thus result in overcrowding of teeth etc), but I donāt know if thatās real science or pseudoscience.
Very important. This is something Iāll be doing if I have children.
@relaxedmeatball Iām no expert but I think when your children are young take them to an orthodontist/orthopedist who can keep an eye on development and intervene if necessary to correct problems with the airway. Itās much easier when youāre young to correct these things.
Iām seeing one right now and they told me this exact thing, now I have to do a more involved surgery to correct my nasal breathing and my jaw which controls overall breathing.
This is net negative for sure. What if it gets stuck in the airway. Lots of kids have died this way.
Psuedoscience often leads to suboptimal decisions. Just make sure to not create a habit out of breathing through the mouth (e.g after a cold).
When I say ākidsā I mean like 5+, not infants or those learning to eat.
For example, I may encourage them to eat steak and a French baguette (chewing needed) rather than minced beef and soft sliced bread (almost no chewing needed). Or eating crunchy raw carrots rather than blended/pureed or cooked carrots. Iām not obsessed with it, but I am mindful that we donāt want to feed them nothing but mush all the time.
Youāre right though that choking is definitely a very serious issue. We are careful and donāt allow things like marbles, hard candy, boiled sweets etc in the house at all. My wife and I have also both taken first aid courses on choking rescue, CPR etc back when she first got pregnant.
Research Paper:
Adverse Experiences, Protective Factors, and Obesity in Latinx and Hispanic Youths
Findings In this cross-sectional study of 5435 youths from the Adolescent Brain Cognitive Development (ABCD) study, ACEs were associated with increased BMI. Youth-reported self-coping skills and perceived caregiver support moderated the association of ACEs with BMI among Latinx and Hispanic youths, who had a greater number of ACEs and higher BMI than non-Hispanic youths.
Meaning These findings suggest that ACEs may increase youth obesity risk, but promotion of resiliency-focused skills may help improve pediatric weight trajectories among disproportionately impacted populations.
https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamanetworkopen/fullarticle/2842300
Childhood Trauma Accelerates Aging. This Therapy Can Change That.
New UCSF research reveals that Child-Parent Psychotherapy doesnāt just heal emotional wounds ā it repairs a biological process that could benefit kids for life.
āThere is a very common misconception that at early ages, children are too young to understand when terrible things happen,ā says Alicia Lieberman, PhD, director of UC San Franciscoās Child Trauma Research Program and the Irving B. Harris Professor of Infant Mental Health. āPeople think that at ages 5 and under, kids are too young to know when their parents are overwhelmed with grief and shame. Theyāre not too young. What they see, feel, and hear lives in them.ā
It lives in them mentally and emotionally. And it lives in them physically.
A robust vein of research in stress biology has revealed that early childhood trauma is associated with a host of serious short- and long-term health issues, including diabetes, heart disease, asthma, cognitive decline, immune disorders, and cancer.
Scientists are working to explain exactly how this complex translation from mental to physical health occurs. In recent years, theyāve made enormous strides in understanding epigenetics ā the study of the chemical processes that regulate gene activity and expression.
https://magazine.ucsf.edu/childhood-trauma-accelerates-aging-therapy-can-change
I recently finished a very nice book on the topic: āThe Book You Wish Your Parents Had Readā by Phillipa Perry. I guess she was ahead of her time since all of these studies are coming out supporting her ideas.
From what I remember, the basics are:
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Acknowledge their emotions, rather than downplaying them or telling them to suppress them. My kids fight over the most trivial unimportant things. If I downplay or ridicule it, they will feel like I donāt respect them, because those things are important to them.
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Acknowledge your own emotions. Admit when youāre wrong. Apologise for doing bad/wrong things. Weāve all been sleep deprived, hungry, distracted etc and lashed out or carelessly said things we donāt mean. Apologising goes a long way and actually strengthens your bond.
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Donāt go immediately for punishment, but consider why they are doing what theyāre doing. They may be angling for attention, expressing frustration, displaying fear and trying to distract themselves etc. I recently had this where my youngest was starting a new class with a different teacher, and he was being an absolute little shit on the morning before class. Then I realised heās probably worried, and as soon as I asked him about whether he was scared, the naughty behaviour switched off like magic.
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Teach and connect, rather than coerce, to get the behaviours you want. So sure, I can force, manipulate or lie to them to quickly and conveniently get the outcome I want. However, thereās a cost to doing that because kids are extremely smart and soon they figure out that you canāt be trusted. Thatās not a good foundation for a lifelong relationship.
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Allow the child to explore for themselves and allow the child to safely experience failures. If you protect them from everything, they learn that mistakes are all catastrophic and itās extremely stressful. And they also lack any sort of confidence for dealing with failure. As a professor, I see this in many of my high-achieving students who have gone through all sorts of exams etc with great scores. But now theyāre suddenly in the lab, their experiments arenāt working and they are really upset by it. Some have even quit, or get depressed.
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Think of a child not as a project to manage, but as a person with whom you are building a lifelong relationship. For me, this sort of long-term thinking has been really useful. Weāre a longevity forum so Iād like to have 50+ years to spend with my kids, and to meet my great grand-kids.