Am I remembering this right?: nuns tend to live longer than average. Could it be because they are insulated from many of the stressors of life outside the convent, including the demands of men?
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I won’t go into the many studies. People can look it up for themselves, but the evidence is strong that men benefit more from marriage than women.
But, I don’t blame it on the men. Women seem to be much harder to satisfy in marriage.
The multitudes of young women marrying a skunk with the expectation that they can change him is one of the problems. I have never heard of a man marrying a woman with the expectation that he could change her.
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Quite the contrary. Probably most men go into the married state expecting / hoping she never changes, then wind up disappointed 
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My Fair Lady.
@desertshores @medaura I think you’re both right. Fun fact: women initiate 69% of divorces.
Personally, I’m one of those people that doesn’t think a relationship needs a marriage contract attached to it in all cases. You could still refer to each other as husband/wife and even have a ceremony, but not sign marriage papers. I wish this were to become more normalized.
Back to the topic of sex, I can definitely say I’m happier when I am having a lot more of it.
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Well if you have joint assets and joint offspring you can see that the papers end up meaning something.
I don’t really know what all the facts are, but I’ve heard it’s related to women being the cook/housekeeper etc… granted, things might be very different these days.
Along those lines, I’ve heard men typically remarry much sooner.
(I have not looked anything up but this is just what I’ve always heard)
@LukeMV in the olden days, I think women needed marriage to have some financial security, but now that they are also earners, as long as they are not staying home with the kids (putting themselves at financial risk), I think it’s perfectly fine to keep the state out of it if that is what two people choose.
Women tend to have better friends and social networks, men tend to have fewer friends and rely on their wives for social interaction. My understanding is that this is thought to be the main reason why men tend to benefit more from marriage.
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